When He Says “Forever”

In the United States, statistics typically agree that one in two married couples will get a divorce.  The percentage gets higher when we focus on those who have married for a second or third time.  We embrace quick-fix, microwave solutions to problems that deserve greater attention–sexual intimacy on the second or third date, one-night-stands, broken promises.  We are a culture indulging in reality television shows that promote men and women “hooking up” without acknowledging that sex creates a soul-tie; forever the two will be one in God’s eyes unless they repent and allow the delivering power of the Holy Spirit to create new life.  The memories will always be there.

This is especially true in the church, where we swing on a pendulum between cheap grace and legalism.  We either leap head-first into exciting our senses with the mindset of, “well, to the pure all things are pure” or we give each other a list of requirements tacked on to salvation that burden us more than what Jesus intended when He established a new covenant

My point is not to make anyone feel bad; all of us have fallen short of the mark many times; I am simply trying to lay the foundation that most if not all of us have no real concept of “forever.”  Instead, many of us exchange God’s version forever for Disney’s promise of a “happily-ever-after,” and wonder why life does not meet our expectations.

 Without understanding that God’s “forever” is without reservation, without a pre-nup or safety escape clause, we cannot understand His heart in Psalm 4:3:

But know that the LORD has set apart for Himself him who is godly; the LORD will hear when I call to Him.

The phrase “set apart” here means “distinct, marked out, be separated, be distinguished” (Strongs H6395).  God forever marks those who belong to Him.  He knows them.  They look different, not because of what they do in their own strength, but because He makes them look different.

Many of us have forgotten what it feels like to have someone jealously guard us (or, in turn, to guard jealously).  While we do not want to hold others in a suffocating grip, sometimes our “open hand” is so open that we let our loved ones fall through the cracks. 

This is not God’s way.  He reserves us as a private garden belonging exclusively to Him.  We are set apart, peculiar, reserved, guarded, distinguished, separated…His.  Forever.  We are pledged in marriage to a Lamb who will never back out on His covenant.  He will always pursue, always guard, always love.  He is never going to get tired of the chase, never going  to give up, never going to get bored with us, never going to bewail the loss of “the mystery” that society screams women must keep alive to keep men interested.  He’s never going to cheat on the relationship, and each new day will always be a new adventure. 

This is His “forever.”  When He said it, He meant it.  He knows those who belong to Him, and He has been waiting patiently for His bride for thousands of years. 

Have you said “yes” to Him?

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10 Responses to When He Says “Forever”

  1. cherish says:

    i love how we never have to wonder if G-d will get tired of us or find someone more interesting. && i suppose if we stand strong in that confidence in the spiritual realm, it will flow over into the physical one, when it comes to our romantic relationships and eventually marriage. . .if “the mystery” doesn’t matter to G-d, then it won’t to the man in whom He dwells and works and lives (:

    • Chrystal says:

      Exactly! And one thing the Lord convicted me on is feeling like I have to be “interesting enough” or “satisfy” my future spouse….that’s not my burden to carry. Only God is creative enough to satisfy us. Instead of praying, “Lord, help me stay interesting enough for my husband/wife” we should really be praying, “Lord, help my husband/wife to stay enraptured with You.” When he/she is captivated by Jesus and He continues to shine through us, there is no reason to fear that our spouse will tire of us!

  2. reverendomac says:

    I would be pressing the like button alot on this if you had one! Alot of truth in this!

  3. Rachel says:

    How true this is . . . people around us will disappoint – He never will. He is faithful to His Words and that kind of faithfulness is something we don’t see in this world. It makes me want to draw even nearer to Him.


  4. Sei ermutigt says:

    May holy triune God continue to bless your life Chrystal with His phenomenal purifying love. As always you write very powerfully and compellingly!

    God’s creation will fall into temptation if they choose to live by every word that proceeds out of the mouth of the media and the television screen.

    Citizens of America, let’s emphatically refuse to make exciting our senses into a god.

    Let’s decide instead to allow holy God to reveal to us that He is sovereign over statistics collated by His creation.

  5. Instead, many of us exchange God’s version forever for Disney’s promise of a “happily-ever-after,” and wonder why life does not meet our expectations.

    Mm. So true. It also seems that we’re not willing to work for things — love should come easy, love should flow naturally. I’ve always found it interesting that 1 Corinthians 13 does not chronicle emotions but rather choices and attitudes.

    Some very interesting musings here, Chrystal – thank you for sharing.

    • That is, in our culture, we’re not willing to work for things and have cultivated an attitude in which feelings should come naturally — that’s what I was getting at, sorry if it’s unclear.

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